Perry Answers YOUR Questions About Singleness, Sex and Dating - Part 12

Feb 28, 2016



Episode Description

In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answers the following questions:

1. RC from SC asks: Do you think it's wrong to work for and/or go to places like Hooters?

2. Kira from NC asks: What are the real roles in a relationship for each partner? Do the man and the woman have different roles?

3. Bryn from the United Kingdom writes: Pastor P, after listening to your podcast I decided I wanted to stand up emotionally, and sat down with the girl I've had feelings for to let her know how I felt. We are good friends and while she didn't give me feedback on how she felt I get the sense she feels the same way but finds the idea of relationships intimidating. How do I pursue her in a Godly way that makes her feel cared for without being pressured, while trying to grow emotionally myself?

4. Tori in SC asks: I have been struggling with singleness especially with it being "engagement season." How do you cope with the loneliness? And how do you know if you are being called to singleness?

5. Grace in Washington writes: As a kid growing up in church, I feel like I was taught that the best way to honor God was to avoid dating relationships altogether. Now as a college student, I am beginning a relationship with a godly man, and even though I like him, I sometimes struggle to let him pursue me because for so long I have believed that godliness and romance are opposed to one another (unless you're married.) What practical advice would you have for me as I try to pursue a TRUE biblical view of romance within the context of this new relationship?

6. Christian in SD asks: How do I know which girl to pursue? There are two really awesome godly girls at my church. Girl #1 I have liked for about 5 years - I have asked her out a couple of times, but she has shot me down both times. Girl #2 seems a little flirty with me, but I don't think I could be all in to a relationship with her due to my feelings for girl #1. Do I just not take no for an answer from girl #1 or do I pursue girl #2 and hope my other feelings diminish?

7. Tyler from SC asks: Is it wrong to masterbate if you are married and you think about your wife/husband when you do it? As long as it doesn't interfere with your intimate time together?

8. BONUS FOR TIME Unknown in Ohio: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. During our relationship we have messed up sexually. We've talked about not doing it again but it just keeps happening again and again. I'm tired of feeling guilty… What should I do? The thought of breaking up with him gets me excited because I won't have to feel guilty about sexually sinning but it also worries me because what if I never get to date again? Should I just keep trying to work things out?

Episode Resources

Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at and he may answer it in his book!