Relationships

Seven Things A Wife CANNOT Do

Sep 19, 2012

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about the Eight Things A Husband Cannot Do (you can check it out here.)  Today we will flip the coin and talk about the SEVEN things a wife cannot do.

#1 - A wife cannot ever, I MEAN EVER underestimate her influence when it comes to speaking words of encouragement to her husband, ladies, TRUST ME…he needs to be encouraged by you, it means way more than you will EVER know!  (Proverbs 18:21)  If you want to read more on this I wrote a post last year entitled “What A Wife Should Never Do” that you can check out here!!!

#2 - A wife cannot ever believe that by nagging and picking fights with her husband that she will eventually turn him into to the godly man that he needs to be (see I Peter 3:1-2, Proverbs 19:13, Proverbs 21:9, Proverbs 21:19, Proverbs 25:24 & Proverbs 27:15).

#3 - A wife cannot underestimate the value of her character…a husband wants to know he can trust his wife & that when he opens up to her that she will not use what he says to create discussion topics with her friends, thus betraying his confidence in her.  Character matters (see Proverbs 12:4 and Proverbs 31:10!)

#4 - A wife cannot begin to engage with her “guys friends” emotionally through an online relationship and somehow believe that “innocent flirting” will not lead to the destruction of her marriage (Proverbs 6:27.)

#5 - A wife should never use crying, yelling or the silent treatment to manipulate her husband.  Many ladies call this “just being a girl;” however, I believe the Bible would label that type of behavior wicked and sinful (see Galatians 5:22-23 for how wives AND husbands should act towards each other.)

#6 - A wife should never say “nothing is wrong” when something is wrong.  He is NOT a mind reader, truth, in love, must be spoken (Ephesians 4:25-27)

#7 - A wife should not use her kids to “vent” about how worthless she perceives her husband to be…while it may be true that certain husbands have room for improvement, “venting” to the kids teaches them to disrespect their dad and one day when you need him to step up and lead the kids will not respect him because you spent so much time tearing him down.

BONUS:  A husband cannot use ANY of these points to verbally assault his wife!!!