A Quick Note About An Addict…

I must choose my words carefully because; after all, much pain and confusion have been caused by those who struggle with addiction.  

However, I can honestly say addicts can only be helped through COMPASSION rather than CONDEMNATION.  

I can make you a promise that an addict does not wake up everyday saying, "How can I destroy my life?  How can I hurt other people?"  

However, it happens...every single day.  

The church's message to addicts for far too long has been, "STOP IT!"  

Question - how's that working out?  

As I read about the life and ministry of Jesus--He didn't kick people out, but rather drew people in.  

The people who were not welcome in the temple (the blind, the lame, the lepers) were always welcomed with Jesus.  

I am NOT saying addicts should be given permission to continue in the way they are living - but - instead of saying, "stop it" it would be way more effective to actually ask "why" this is taking place.  

We will reach way more people with

• COMPASSION rather than CONDEMNATION.  
• Open arms rather than pointing fingers
• Reaching out instead of throwing out.  

Because - only when a person understand WHY they are doing what they are doing can they dig down deep and do the hard work it takes to get better.  

And one more thing...

Healing doesn't always take place in the timetable everyone wants it to take place in - someone who has wrestled with an addiction may stumble their way through getting better for years.  When they fall the thing they need is not to be kicked while they are down - but for someone to extend a hand and help them back up.  

I overmedicated on alcohol for far too long - it blew my life up and the cost, at times, still causes me to break down and weep.  However, because of a few incredible friends who have been willing to walk with me (and not posture themselves above me) I've been able to walk in freedom, healing and am slowly learning to actually forgive myself.  

So - if there is someone in your life who is an addict - my hope and prayer is you will approach them with an open hand rather than a closed fist, and walk with them instead of turning your back ON them - I can promise you relationships with people who really do love you will make a difference!