Perry Answers Your Singleness, Sex And Dating Questions - Part 4

Episode Description

In this podcast Perry answers REAL questions that you've submitted to perrynoble.com/ask about singleness, sex and dating! In this month's episode, Perry answered the following questions:

• "Hi Perry! I think it's super cool I have the same name as your daughter! As a 17-year-old who has never dated, is it good to have a mental image for what I want in the start of a dating relationship (e.g. being friends for a long time first, only going out if he feels the same calling into ministry, a preference toward a courtship model or traditional dating model) or should I just "let things play out," while seeking godly council from mentors/friends?" - Karis
• "I've always desired to get married one day but I feel that God is wanting me to pursue His calling for me right now instead of a guy pursuing me in a relationship. What if God's calling will leave me to be single?" - Elissa
• "What are some questions to ask, ponder and pray about regarding whether or not I am "ready" for marriage?" - Brian
• "I am 23 years old and have chosen to wait to have sex. I feel like as much as a guy loves Jesus, he's still a guy and still wants what he wants. Guys can be SO forward physically, even ones from church! Do guys really respect girls who make that decision?" - Courtney
• "I have been in a relationship for almost two years now and something that I have been confused about is the topic of compromising. I hear about how when we are dating that we don't need to compromise but when we are married then compromising and communication are very effective. What is the difference between compromising in dating and compromising in marriage besides the physical aspect?" - Allison
• "I have never been in a relationship before, and I have had dreams about the same guy for 8 years now, and I don't know if it's a desire, but somehow I think he might be the one God has chosen for me. Pastor P, how can I know if it is really a sign from God? I'm confused..." - Johanna
• "How important is it to consider the family of my significant other in a dating relationship? My boyfriend is great and loves the Lord wholeheartedly but comes from a family with a history of deep sin, anger, aggression, and pain that has never been dealt with. How can I discern our relationship with this in mind?" - Jessica
• "I have heard you talk a little bit about being single and I love what you say, but I have a little disability that is noticeable... How can I find a godly woman who will overlook my disability?" - Ryan
• "As a single woman who wants to be a good gift to a spouse one day, I can recognize that this season has real purpose. I don't want to waste the time that God has intentionally chosen for me to be single, to prepare my heart for marriage one day. What are some practical steps that I can put into place today that will help me to be a blessing, and not a burden to my future husband?" - Danille
• "My wife is unsure of her love language(s) and she has a hard time understanding how to respond to me when I pursue her due to some wounds from the past. How can I best respond to her when it seems like many of the things I try doesn't stir her heart?" - Josh
• "My parents are recently divorced after a long, strenuous process lasting over two years. My father cheated on my mother for ten years before my mother found out. It has really shown me the reality that the world is a horrible, broken place. When we finally found out about the affair, it left me with serious trust issues pertaining to guys and dating. I'm afraid that I will never find someone to marry because of my lack of ability to trust any man and that this part of me will drive away anyone interested in me and willing to pursue me. How can I push past this distrust of guys to find a good, godly man to marry when I have seen all the deceit and lies that can happen behind closed doors?" - Sierra
• "If you have a past with someone (both pushed God away and had sex) but years later found the Lord in an extraordinary way, were both baptized again and became Godly friends--do you think there is a possibility of a Godly relationship... even with the previous memories/outcome?" - Nan

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Perry is writing a book on being single, relationships and dating scheduled to release later in 2016 and he would LOVE to know what questions you have as a single person, or wish you would've asked before you got married. Just send in your question at perrynoble.com/ask and he may answer it in his book!