One of the biggest frustrations among singles is NOT being able to get a date. If you're wondering why you are not dating, below are EIGHT reasons to consider:
#1 - It’s not time!!! Proverbs 24:27 says that we should make sure our lives are in order before we build a house!!!
#2 - You want to get married more than you want to walk with Jesus! If this is true of you, then being in a relationship is an idol in your life and if the Lord were to give it to you, it would do nothing more than set you up for disappointment in the person you want to be with. No one can ever fulfill you. Only Jesus can!!! (See I John 5:21)
#3 - You are bitter! Either at your mother, father or an ex-spouse!!! One of the WORST things a person can do is carry bitterness from a past relationship (not necessarily even a romantic one) into a current relationship (see Ephesians 4:31!)
#4 - You struggle with impurity! I Thessalonians 4:3 says that IT IS GOD’S WILL that we avoid sexual immorality! If you are wrestling with porn, or if every relationship you are in moves quickly towards “going too far” then you REALLY need to get those issues worked out. If that is the case you would not be someone who could strengthen someone else and their walk with Jesus. You would actually weaken them!
#5 - You are trying too hard!!! If you are a dude then PLEASE get this. If you are always asking girls out then I promise you that you have a reputation among them (and not a good one)!! Yes, I believe the guy should be the one to pursue (Proverbs 18:22), BUT there is a difference between pursuing and stalking, and no one has EVER fallen in love with a stalker!!!
#6 - You are finding your identity in who you date (or if you can get a date) more than you are in a relationship with Jesus!
#7 - You are willing to compromise in order to go out with someone! If you are a follower of Jesus Christ then compromise can never be a consideration!!!
#8 - (Especially if you are a dude) You are not financially responsible!!! If you want to find a wife one of the BEST things you can do TODAY is not sign up on eharmony.com but rather do whatever it takes to GET OUT OF DEBT!!! (Proverbs 22:7)