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Three Things For Pastors To Keep In Mind—Part Two

Aug 14, 2008

Continuing from yesterday…

#2 - Your Relationship With Your Wife Should Be The Most Important Human Relationship You Have!

I know way too many pastors wives who feel like the church is “the other woman.”

Pastors, the church is Christ’s bride…not ours!

I once had a minister tell me that his wife often told him, “I feel you see me as Leah and the church as Rachel.”

They were divorced about a year after he told me that. Pastors, two things about your wife…

A. She’s Not Impressed With You - All too often pastors thrive on needing to be needed, they want to be the hero and to have all eyes focused on them.

And bro…it just can be that way at home!

At church we’re “something” in the eyes of others. But at home…well, our wives don’t really care that we are pastors—they are more concerned about our role as husbands. AND…it’s hard to be impressed with the guy who farts under the covers and wakes up with morning breath!

She loves you…she wants to be loved by you…but she isn’t impressed with the fact you are a pastor. (And if she is…that will wear off.)

B. She Wants To Feel Pursued By You - Pastors, if we spent half of the time developing a plan for our marriage that we do planning for ministry…the results would be incredible.

  • She wants us to talk to her…not spend hours on the cell phone when we get home.
  • She wants us to be innovative in our marriage…not just in ministry.
  • She wants us to invest time in her…not just in making sure the message is good.
  • She wants us to talk to her…and not just talk about her in our messages.
  • She wants our attention…and not just when we “are in the mood!”

‘Cretia is my bride…my princess…and my passion is pursue her. I’ve not always done a good job with this…but more and more I am learning to pay attention to what she needs…to ask her how I can serve her…and then do all I can to communicate to her THROUGH ACTIONS that she is important to me.

I can tell her all day long…but until I step up and serve her…she won’t know!